Mom Guilt, Who? The OG Working Woman of Proverbs 31

Alright, let’s talk about the “Proverbs 31 woman.” You know, the one who’s been held up as the gold standard for women everywhere. But what if we told you she’s more than just a homemaking icon? Spoiler: she’s actually the OG entrepreneur.

In this episode, we’re throwing guilt out the window and reimagining what it means to be a modern, intentional woman. From ditching the pressure to “do it all” to prioritizing joy over judgment, we’re breaking down why living authentically is the real glow-up. Plus, the mantra that might just change everything: “What I’m not changing, I’m choosing.”

So grab your bubbly and get ready to rewrite the rules, one intentional choice at a time. This is your permission to stop playing small and start showing up for YOU.

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Chapters & Timestamps

1. [00:00:00] The Struggle Is Real
   • Kat opens up about juggling career and full-time daycare guilt.
   • Chelsea dives into how societal expectations push moms to feel like they’re failing, no matter what.
2. [00:00:30] Redefining Fulfillment
   • Why finding joy and purpose outside of motherhood makes us better moms.
   • A reminder: There’s no one-size-fits-all definition of a “good mom.”
3. [00:02:04] Modern Takes on Proverbs 31
   • Reclaiming the Proverbs 31 woman as a clever, working badass.
   • Debunking the myth that women are only meant to run their households.
4. [00:02:48] Passive Income Goals, Biblical Style
   • The Proverbs 31 woman was the queen of investments and entrepreneurship.
   • Spoiler: She didn’t ask for permission.
5. [00:03:33] The Power of Work
   • Kat shares how work fuels her energy and joy.
   • Chelsea reminds us that purpose can come from anything that recharges you—whether it’s work, rock climbing, or morning prosecco.
6. [00:04:19] Intention Over Expectation
   • Stop letting societal standards dictate your choices.
   • Make intentional decisions that align with your unique values, not outdated norms.
7. [00:06:13] No Regret, Just Lessons
   • Chelsea and Kat on letting go of regret and reframing past mistakes as stepping stones.
   • “What you’re not changing, you’re choosing.”

 Welcome to Prosecco on the Bathroom Floor. We're Chelsea and Kat, two women who also happen to be business owners and moms. If you've ever had a moment where it feels like one big, chaotic mess, you're in the right place. 

This is a party where we spill the tea, own the chaos, and remind you to never apologize for taking up space. One glass of bubbly at a time. So grab your Prosecco or whatever's in your cup and let's get into i

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Until next time, remember, own your chaos, take up space, and never apologize for being you.   

Chapters

• 0:00 The Struggle Is Real
• 0:56 Redefining Fulfillment
• 2:30 Modern Takes on Proverbs 31
• 3:14 Passive Income Goals, Biblical Style
• 3:59 Work as Joy
• 4:45 Intention Over Expectation
• 6:39 No Regret, Just Lessons

Transcript

[00:00:00] Kat: I think it's a constant struggle. I still deal with it. Every day, enjoying my career and being a business woman and putting my kids in preschool or full time daycare, I still struggle with some of that guilt.

[00:00:11] Kat: Like, I'm not being their mom because they're in full time preschool and daycare. And I'm working. I should be working. But that's again, that's what society says that as a mom, you should be doing, but if I was with him all the time, we wouldn't have a house. We wouldn't have food to eat, you know, 

[00:00:29] Chelsea: honestly, because okay.

[00:00:30] Societal Norms and Personal Choices

[00:00:30] Chelsea: And there are different personalities, people, right? You and I are very similar in that we find a lot of ourselves and our not our worth because worth is internal, right? But we find a lot of joy and making things happen. Okay. We find a lot of joy in our careers and affecting change. Our careers give us an opportunity to work with women and make their lives different.

[00:00:54] Chelsea: So for us, having that creative outlet where we are changing people's lives, we are [00:01:00] making money for ourselves, we feel like in our power, for us and our personalities, that makes us better moms because it secures us in who we are. And when our cup is full, we can pour into our kids cups. Now, there are women whose personalities, they don't need a career, they don't want to work.

[00:01:19] Chelsea: They love, you know, building a beautiful home. They love cooking meals every meal of the day. And those things are things that fulfill them and allow them to pour from a full cup for their kids. And that's 

[00:01:30] Kat: wonderful. 

[00:01:30] Chelsea: Whatever it is that is the thing that you derive that energy from. Yes. Where you find your joy, where you find what fills you up so you can give to others, is 100 percent okay because everyone's different.

[00:01:43] Chelsea: If we were all the same, there wouldn't be enough space for us all. 

[00:01:46] Kat: Right. In a boring world. 

[00:01:47] Chelsea: Right. Again, like, society kind of veers towards women should want to build their home up. You know, be homemakers. If that is who you are naturally, then, by God, do it. But if that's not who you are [00:02:00] naturally, you do not have to subscribe to that standard.

[00:02:02] Kat: Yeah. And you know, you and I have talked about this a lot. 

[00:02:04] Biblical References and Modern Interpretations

[00:02:04] Kat: I remember this was maybe a year ago in the church and just hearing someone say that, you know, the women are coming back to the home and, and that is your, it should be your number one ministry. And that really bothered me a lot because didn't the Proverbs 31 woman work.

[00:02:20] Kat: She not only worked, she was clever. Yes. She was efficient with her work. Yes, she was. 

[00:02:26] Chelsea: She was so efficient and clever with her work that people were like, wow, look at her go. Look 

[00:02:31] Kat: at her. They were. They were admiring her. 

[00:02:33] Chelsea: In the workplace, not in the home. They didn't come up in her house to study how she cleaned dishes.

[00:02:39] Kat: Right. And I think it even says in there, I mean, I don't have my phone with me. I can look it up. But. She acquired new fields or new things too. So she was always looking. Investment opportunities. 

[00:02:48] Investment Opportunities and Passive Income

[00:02:48] Chelsea: Investment, right, right. This woman was on the lookout for investment opportunities and she was not asking for permission to make those investments.

[00:02:58] Kat: Didn't say that she was. [00:03:00] No, it said the man was like, Oh, she's already invested in multiple areas. She has passive income coming in. I like this woman. And doesn't it the man who finds her? Yeah, that's because he'd be making money. That's right. Dang. Cause she already invested in the multiple fields. She has a multi level marketing business.

[00:03:16] Chelsea: Exactly, right? 

[00:03:18] Balancing Work and Family Life

[00:03:18] Kat: Decembers are always so hard. Christmas time is great, but gosh, December's hard when the kids are out of school so much. And I just find it really, really hard, especially when you're on your own business because you leave a nine to five job with this dream and you wind up working seven days a week, but we love it.

[00:03:32] Kat: Right. 

[00:03:33] Finding Purpose and Energy in Work

[00:03:33] Kat: But I mean, I was just stressed to the max and the first day in January, when the kids were back in their school, I was reminded of how much energy my work gives me. It gives me life. It gives me energy. It gives me purpose. And I feel so much better. I feel like such a better mom because. I have that aspect of my life back now, where I have that separation, that time to work, do something that I enjoy, do something that gives me purpose, and then I get to love on them and [00:04:00] raise them.

[00:04:00] Chelsea: Our careers give us that reset and that recharge. It can be anything that gives you a reset and recharge.

[00:04:06] Chelsea: It could be rock climbing. Maybe you are a mom who loves rock climbing. Yep. And you need to go rock climb every morning after you drop the kids off at work. Good for you, boo! Do it! Freaking rock climb every freaking day! 

[00:04:19] The Importance of Intentional Choices

[00:04:19] Chelsea: All we're saying is, whatever you have been taught and told you need to do, isn't everyone's truth and reality.

[00:04:27] Chelsea: No, absolutely. I think we can live that back to intention, because that's what we started with, right? Mm hmm. So, the idea is, if you are trying To avoid because that's something that you could be doing is you are avoiding What it is that you actually want because you're afraid of wanting. Yeah So like the mom who feels like she needs to be a stay at home mom, but she really loves working You could be binge watching housewives for three hours Because if you want to work then you're a bad mom and you don't want to deal with working through that.

[00:04:59] Chelsea: Yeah, [00:05:00] right so it can be like any number of things but I think the whole idea is, anything that you do, make the actual choice to do it. Absolutely. Yes. Don't let it choose you. Right. Don't let the drinking push you around. Don't let the TV shows tell you what to do. Don't let the bag of chips take control.

[00:05:21] Chelsea: You're in control of everything that you do. Yep. And anything that you chose or failed to choose In the past I also and I want to know your thoughts on this, but I don't believe in regret Oh, no, you just learned from your mistake because here's the thing regret leads to guilt guilt leads to going further down and deeper into that hole huh.

[00:05:41] Chelsea: So forgiving yourself. We've talked about this before but yeah, I 

[00:05:44] Kat: think I just did a bit posted a video that over there Mm hmm, 

[00:05:47] Chelsea: because the thing is like, okay So in the past you drank without intention in the past you Wasted time on your phone without intention because [00:06:00] why dive into that if the why was well I didn't want to think about this thing.

[00:06:04] Chelsea: Okay, we'll think about that thing now change it now Right. Dig in now. The next time you go to drink, ask yourself why you're drinking, 

[00:06:13] Kat: see if 

[00:06:13] Chelsea: you need to journal, or if you can have your drink. 

[00:06:16] Kat: Yep. 

[00:06:16] Chelsea: But like, just now is all we have. Looking at the past and being like, oh I wish I hadn't done that or I wasted so much time is literally helping no one.

[00:06:24] Chelsea: It's not helping you. It's not helping your kids. It's not helping literally anyone in this entire universe. It is worthless. 

[00:06:30] Kat: Yeah, 

[00:06:31] Chelsea: what is helpful is to look at the past learn from the mistakes Move forward making better choices. Yeah with intention. 

[00:06:38] Kat: Yeah, and I think I told you some other time when we were shooting videos I was going through a really hard time several months ago and I woke up one morning and it was These words in my mind.

[00:06:47] Kat: I heard it almost audibly What I'm not changing, I'm choosing. And that's 

[00:06:52] Chelsea: what I was trying to quote. Yes. That was 

[00:06:53] Kat: the one I was trying to quote. I was trying to quote you. It just hit me. I mean, that was just so, that was extremely powerful [00:07:00] for me, but that's the whole intentional thing. Whether, you know, you're doing a lot of things right now.

[00:07:04] Kat: You might be doing a lot of things right now that are completely unintentional in your life that are not helping you change at all. And you are choosing that every single day. And that's why you're not changing. That's why you're stuck.